Friday, October 18, 2019

Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.


Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.
The aesthetics of nature lies in the soul not in the body, beauty is a natural phenomena cannot be measured in the prescribed parameters.
Beauty is the illusion of nature. It lies in elegance and heeds no criteria to describe it.
Aesthetic judgements, aesthetic courts need to decide first who is not beautiful?
Common features that have changed in all human population since our ape ancestors had still can be overseen.
Objective beauty is a subject to open ended improvement. No parameters can be perfectly true. How can we discover aesthetic truth in the same way as we discover scientific truth.
People say aesthetic progress has been a lot slower than scientific progress, people can only express in words a tiny proportion of what they know about beauty.the standards of beauty change every moment and the artistic standards too keep changing. Every particle of the nature (including humans)is the Gods creation, how can we be judgemental about it and fix up the beauty in parameters.
Every person is a gift of God.
Look beyond imperfections.
Be 'PRASANG'Be Joyous
A world wide Emotional Well Being Movement since October 2012

Wednesday, July 10, 2019

'Beat the clock’ with children who hesitate to act appropriately.




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Children who misbehave often do so because they see it as an option of more fun than the good behavior their parents are trying to teach them to combat. Parents can work to make good behavior a fun for their child. One great way to turn good behaviour into fun is a behavioural game to play where patience is nurtured. Design a game where the child needs to wait for his turn.
“Beat the clock’ with children who hesitate to act appropriately.

Discussing good behaviour with children:
Children need to understand that while it can be fun to engage in good behavior, it can be serious to engage in nasty behaviour.

Game beat the clock:
It’s a simple game that is usually embraced by children. It is a way for parents to time their children  when performing a certain tasks such as making their bed, getting dressed or picking up their toys because they are being timed. Note the timings of their activities slow/fast.
One child seven years old, quite competitive and perfectionist but gets angry and frustrated if others do better than him or if he is unhappy with his own work he goes into sulky strops but at home where he can be given space and ignored the last minute but at school over the last few months its all got out of hand.

I feel the school mishandled situations initially. A minor incident such as tearing up his own picture resulted in five members of staff getting involved, then he was allocated a mentor who after weeks of breathing down his neck said he couldn’t work out how to help him.
He lost his confidence in how to behave which was apparent at a recent children’s party, when he was being play tackled and teased, he walked unhappily away as though he no longer trust his judgement or ability to interact without getting told off. His behaviour was under the spotlight and appears as a result to have got worse at school. The school brings me in meetings but they seem to have come to their own conclusions. How do I protect and help him from being labelled as troubled or bad? I feel bright, interested, sensitive child is being demonised.

Suggestions:
At just seven years the child can be helped to overcome his difficulties, all too often we hear about children whose behaviour has been misinterpreted and handled in what we perceive to be an inappropriate way, and this simply serves to make the situation worse I am always quick to encourage parents to talk to their school and work with the teachers, but it seems that in this case the parent feels that the school has potentially made the situation worse for their son, and led to a deterioration in his behaviour.
The child clearly takes a lot of pride in his work which should be admired and praised, however if he is finding it hard to cope with other children doing better than him at school than this is the first issue that needs to be addressed. It is important that children receive regular praise and encouragement for all their school work and activities, but it is equally important to stress that nobody gets everything right all the time and that being perfect at everything is simply not realistic. One way to help the child could be to identify different people within the family or circle of friends who all have a particular talent in one area. Ask relatives or friends to talk to him about the strengths and weakness that they have. This may help him to understand that he simply can’t be brilliant at everything all the time, and that we all have our strong points. It is unfortunate that the child has put himself under such immense pressure to be the best, as this kind of stress can impact negatively on all of us.
A bright little boy who wanted to do his best and enjoy the company of other children but who is now scared to get involved in case he does something wrong. I would encourage parents to go back to the school and state their child’s case again as unfortunately the school will be pivotal in helping them and their son overcoming these difficulties.

Sunday, July 7, 2019

Good touch Bad touch, Programming a touch me not society

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Developing touch me not children.

 There was a tsunami of Good touch and bad touch sessions in Preshools of India last year. Even the social media was out grown with the posts of Good touch and Bad touch. Videos of workshops or the animated films were uploaded in multi fold. ‘Good touch Bad touch’ the phrase itself gives a bad feeling. Can't we call it ‘safe’ and ‘unsafe’ touch? That sounds better. 

Preschools invited experts to guide the teachers, parents and children as well. Even I got invitations to address the concerned population; fortunately I was preoccupied and did not accept the invitation. If I had, I would have spoken against the motion. Instead of explaining all about the touch I would have laid stress on the safety measures and trained the mature minds to take the responsibility of their children. We can't burden the immature minds, where the decision making hasn't been developed yet, to decide between good and bad. 

The Tsunami of good and bad touch was irritating me and that irritation helped me to think beyond the surface and I could think of the society after fifteen to twenty years from now, "The touch me not society". 

Every message or action leaves an impression on child's mind. The verdict of good touch and Bad touch too would leave an impression on the mind of the child which will reflect in later years. A baby's first experience to the surrounding environment occurs through touch. The touch sense develops in prenatal period. This sense never turns off or takes a break in fact; it continues to work after other senses fail in old age. 

Touch is essential for a child's growth in physical abilities and even social and emotional development. Touch is not only imperative for short term advancement with infancy and early childhood sensory experience but also for long term development within the child. Touch even continues to play an important role, both in the early development of physical and communication skills and also in a child's ability to participate in physical activities that incorporate touch and movement benefit children because they learn and develop by touching and feeling different objects especially the kinesthetic learners. 

 Long term effect of touch varies from educational results to social and emotional growth. The very cautious parents or over protective parents would not allow their children to touch or touched by anyone. Touch deprivation is probably most damaging to a child because unlike the other four senses underdeveloped. Lack of gregariousness or interest in exploring the environment, timidity and withdrawal from virtually all social situations with concomitant self directed stereotyped behaviour oblivious aversion to physical contact with others, hyperaggressivity gross abnormalities in sexual behaviour and later in adulthood, the inability to nurture off springs with failure to nurse, neglect and abusive behaviour being highly predictable. Studies in this field reveal that the potential for a great deal of psychological human damage occur at a very early age. Essential aspects of development including most importantly sexual affectionate development is arrested or severally damaged.

Touch has a healing effect and it has its therapeutic uses too. Restricted touch will lead to violent behaviour and violent society. When we hear a child abuse incident the anger is obvious to rise but we feel helpless to do something about it. Of course we need spread knowledge and sensitise the people in the society. 

Awareness of the child's safety and moral education are the only tools which can reduce such incidents. It needs to be eradicated completely. The world needs to be the safest place for every child to live in, that can be developed by giving higher standards of living that are moral values. 

Safety first: 

The foremost need is to have protecting and caring parents. Aren't we making children fearful about any touch? Each time the parent, teacher or any other adult will tell the child about such good or bad touch the fear will be reinforced. Researches state that the close members (93%) of the family mostly abuse children. When someone, a child has been taught to trust, begins touching the private areas in a way that makes them feel good. They are left wondering why this is considered bad touch. 
 Is the sexual assault to the child is the only child abuse? Child is at a risk in all aspects.

 Educate your children, educate yourself: 

Rather than focusing on catchy phrase ' 'Good touch and Bad touch' consider ‘Be aware, afraid not.’ 

Lythgoe (2005) suggests that it is through the sense of touch that we learn to know and find our way in the world. 

As early as eight weeks gestation an embryo able to respond to a touch on the cheeks and by 32 weeks an array of sensory sensations are perceived through temperature, pressure, touch and pain (Montagu 1986) 

When touch is an integral part of an infant daily routine, growth and sleep are facilitated and performance on infant development test is enhanced (Cigales et. al, 1997, Field 2003) 

The touch is essential to human health and well being. Positive tactile communication is deliberately incorporated as part of the daily routine. Various researches have reported that using touch tenderly help to communicate more effectively with children, adults and old people even. Touch reduces depression. There are evidences that touch increases quality of life. 

Aren't we encouraging the touch deprivation by giving the message of good touch and Bad touch? What happens early in life invariably influences later experiences. 

Children who are deprived of touch often suffer physiological and psychological problems. The earlier in life this occurs, the more serious the implications and outcomes (Hertensteins 2002) 

Children suffering from touch deprivation suffer more illness from capacity, increased hyperactivity and an increase in aggressive behaviour (Field, 1999) 

Field suggests that touch deprivation during childhood and adolescence may contribute to the higher incidence of violence in adulthood. 

Prescott (1990 found that in societies where more physical affection was given to children, there was also a lower rate of adult physical violence. At times even perfectly innocent people action can sometimes be misconstrued and can cast a shadow over the relations and careers. 

ALERT: 

See Alert 

Listen Alert

Talk Alert 

Touch Alert 

Alone Alert

Hold Alert 

Smell Alert

Sense Alert 

The child should not be victimised. 


The tension inherent in this complex topic needs to be more transparent. Current attitude towards, touch reveals that there is much to understand about the meaning and implications of 'no' or 'low' touch. A qualitative exploratory approach is required which provides progress that meets the needs of all the children, adults and the society.

https://youtu.be/66CjkQyy4AY?si=nwAneosuOhZYPP0V 

Thursday, June 13, 2019

Math guideline for preschools


Knowing the maths process skills that are developmentally appropriate for the preschoolers to be working on will them to build a strong maths foundation. 
Math is an integral part of our everyday lives and the best time to start teaching the concepts is as early as possible.
The foundation of maths skills will help the Preschoolers to succeed in future maths learning in their primary school years. Preschool teachers, get opportunity to observe children very closely, they can find out where each of the child‘s knowledge is, regarding 13 maths skills and processes.
Once the teacher knows where each child’s knowledge is, she can help to provide aids and activities to introduce them to other areas of maths. The most basic and simple methods work the best.
Observe and check
Children may be able to rationally count up to 5. Notice that once the number of items exceed 5, they are not counting rationally but are rote counting. For example when they count 7 items, they touch one block and say one and so on, once they get to the 6th item they touch one item and might say two numbers 6,7. When they touch the 7th, they might say 8, 9 and so on.
What can we assume out of it?
We can assume that they can rote count till 9 or 10 but rationally they can count up to 5.
We get a clue also that we need to provide activities that will help them to count the more than 5 items rationally. There are ways to teach them numbers rationally. Activities can be planned to extend the rational counting up to 10 or more. It can be done through fun, during role play, snack time, circle time, indoor activities or outdoors.
Do it for a stipulated time and assess which other maths skills your children don’t have now. Plan again.
Math does not only happen in a maths interest.
Children learn maths concepts better with hands on activities. Mostly preschool teachers focus on the basics that are recognition, formation, memorisation and counting of numbers. But it is more about children explore and understand than to be taught.
Before Preschoolers begin to count they already have a basic understanding of one-to one correspondence, matching, labelling, spatial relationships etc.
Some points to keep in mind while teaching maths to preschoolers:
1.     Each child learns, develop and grow at his own pace.
2.     Some learners grasp quickly, while others need repeated practice.
3.     They need to be actively engaged in the learning process, not idly watching someone else or the teacher’s demonstration.
4.      Learners should have opportunities to work alone, with partners and in groups to maximise learning. 
Teachers need to focus on learning process, not on the result. Focus must be on providing activities that encourage learners to involve in counting rather than focusing on their ability to rote count.
Repetition is very important; learners who are exposed to concepts over and over again have more concrete understanding.
Teacher’s role here is as the facilitator who provides material activities and support children to develop their skills further she needs to observe, analyse assess and document the entire process.
A learner needs to have a firm understanding of  rational counting ( pointing to one object at a time while saying each number) before moving on to one – to- one correspondence for example placing 3 spoons next to 3 plates.
There are 17 common maths process skills or concepts to consider in Preschool 
Many of them are considered higher level skills. We may not see them in preschools as they are not understood around the age of seven.
There are 3 common maths process skills
1. Observation
Observation refers to gathering and organising information.
2. Language
Language with regard to preschool maths refers to using "maths" language (i.e. using the word Pattern, light, heavy, more than, etc.)
3. Problem Solving
Problem Solving refers to gathering information and coming to a single solution or gathering many pieces of information and considering a variety of possible solutions to a problem.
17 Common maths process skills or concepts fall under 5 areas
 1. Numbers and operations
(i) Number sense
Numbers Sense is the concept of understanding numbers.
 (ii) Counting
 There are 2 types of counting: Rote and Rational
 Rote Counting is stating numbers in order from memory
 Rational Counting is counting items in a group and then understanding that the last number stated is the amount for the set. 
(iii) one to one correspondence
One-to-One Correspondence is the understanding that one group of items has the same number of items as another. 
 (iv) Numbers and  (v)symbols
Numbers and Symbols refer to the understanding that a specific number is a symbol and that symbol stands for a set of specific items. 
 2. Geometry and Spatial Sense
(vi)  Shapes
Shapes-also known as early geometry!  It is the study of shapes!
 (vii) Spatial sense activities
Spatial Sense is the ability to place items in the correct spaces or places using a logical design or a pattern. 
 3. Measurement
(viii) All areas of measurement: weight, length, height, volume, temperature, time
Measurement is the ability to give an item a number and then use that to compare and put in order other items includes many areas such as weight, length, height, volume, temperature and time (the latter three being higher level skills).
 4. Pattern/Algebraic Thinking
(ix) Patterns
Patterns are the ability to place items in a specific order that repeats
(x) Parts and Wholes
Parts and Wholes are an early fraction skill.
 5. Displaying and Analysing Data
(xi) Sets and classifying
Sets and Classifying: Creating sets is the ability to make groups of items in a logical way. Creating sets requires the skill of Classifying (which is a higher level skill than Creating Sets).Classifying is a higher level skill than comparing.  It is when children (after observing and comparing) take the information learned and begin sorting, classifying and grouping in logical ways. 
 (xii) Order Sequencing
Ordering or Sequencing is when a child compares more than two items or groups and places the items in a logical sequence
 (xiii) Comparing   
Comparing is the ability to identify similarities in items or groups. 
(xiv) Graphing
Graphing is a way of recording or communicating observations and data that the children have learned.
 (xv,) Groups and symbols
Groups and Symbols refer to grouping items in larger quantities which require higher level math skills (addition and/or multiplication).
(xvii) Memory and observation
Teaching preschool maths requires providing material and activities that allow children to investigate, explore, discover and comprehend. It doesn’t require showing flash cards and asking children what number is this or how many cats are there?
We should plan for the skills children need? We need to observe children and document their needs. Then use the document to create our plan for the skills children need. This is the only way that ensures that the facilitator is providing activities based where each child is at. Spend some time in just observing and documenting. Observe children during circle time, snack time, outdoor or indoor gross motor play or circle time. What do they do, talk about or demonstrate about their knowledge about maths.
Just observe do they instruct their friends to jump 4 times etc. using number in their conversation.
Take one skill at a time. Mostly preschools provide such activities that support these skills and are not aware of them.
Why is documentation important? Its important because if you are focusing on shapes and patterns, what about the children who do not have enough experience of sorting? They will become frustrated because they are still learning to sort by general attributes. Creating patterns is not where they are at.
At the end would like to mention that there are many factors which influence a childs ability to acquire critical thinking skills and all of them have a profound impact on child’s learning experiences. Some are mentioned below:
Childs:
·        Culture
·        Community type
·        Structure of family
·        Ordinal position
·        Number of siblings in the family
·        Location the child lives in
·        Experiences
·        Financial position
·        Social security
·        Health
·        Exposure to social violence
·        Any disability

Expose children to experience that spark their interest and curiosity, integrates learning experiences and structure their thinking. As children gain confidence in their ability to reason , check, build connections make representations and communicate their ideas with others, they take up more responsibility for their own thinking.

Happy Learning!

(Compiled from my notes)

Sunday, May 5, 2019

Nurture children with angelic care


 Nurturing by teacher has a very big impact on later development of a child.
Nurture means to help someone to grow and develop. It is to facilitate, provide love and influence, to care for, support, educate, encourage, protect, and teach.
It is a big responsibility for parents and teachers as well.  If we have or do not have children does not make a difference.  We are members of a family. We are daughters, sisters, aunts, cousins, nieces, and granddaughters etc. we do have responsibilities and blessings as we are the members  of God’s family, and we have a great  responsibility to help and strengthen  families specially children.

Everyone belongs to a family, and every family needs to be strengthened, protected, and nurtured. No matter the current family situation, each person has responsibility to strengthen families, their own and those they can influence.
It is a blessing and a responsibility to nurture and sustain the family, and “few of us will reach our potential without the nurturing of both the mother who bore us and the mothers who bear with us.
We remember with love and gratitude the righteous women who have influenced our lives. We remember first the love of our own mothers, those who bore us. We remember the righteous influence of grandmothers, aunts, sisters, Primary teachers. All of these women of God bore with us. They cared for us and about us. They taught us, encouraged us, guided us, and protected us. They influenced our lives for good. They understood that “whenever a woman strengthens the faith of a child, she contributes to the strength of a family—now and in the future”
Every teacher or parent who stands for truth and righteousness diminishes the influence of evil. Every teacher who strengthens and protects her students is doing the work of God. Every teacher who lives as a woman of God becomes a beacon for others to follow and plants seeds of righteous influence that will be harvested for decades to come. Every teacher who makes and keeps sacred covenants becomes an instrument in the hands of God
Teachers are placed in a situation where they can act according to those sympathies which God has planted in their hearts. If they live up to their privilege, the angels cannot be restrained from being their associates and they become the angel of their own kingdom.



Thursday, January 24, 2019

Cursive v/s print hand writing


I know that the world will stand against me, when I say that I strongly believe in teaching cursive handwriting strokes in Level 2 of Preschool.
With my experience over 30 years I have observed very closely that children who start writing in cursive hand in early years develop better cognitive skills than the others. The twist and turns of fine muscles stimulate brain to develop the core of the particular section of the brain. Writing print letters for not have the same effect on the brain, as it does not require the same fine motor movements as cursive. 
I had observe the behavioural difference amongst the children who learnt cursive or print letters. The one who uses cursive hand is more disciplined and systematic in every approach. 
Cursive hand helps in maintaining the flow of the thoughts too whereas the thoughts of people who use print letters in Pre and lower primary levels break in between and make them unable to express themselves in a flow, they use some irrelevant sounds to fill in the pause to recollect the thoughts eg. Ah.....u....hmmm etc. It shows that cursive and print letters affect the speaking skills too.
In this world of smart phones and digital communication many of you might say, what is the use of using pen and paper and writing in cursive hand but human brains need to work behind all these gadgets and cursive hand helps in mental development.
What I have mentioned above opens many topics for research in the field of educational psychology.
Let's acknowledge the importance of cursive handwriting.
Release of tension and excessive energy.
Children build up tensions just as adults do, but they tend to reduce them naturally through movement and play. Frequently children are required to be still beyond their capacity to endure. When this happens both tension and excess energy increases and leads to restlessness and lack of atte which may lead to unnecessary strain between adult and child.
It is more effective to deal directly with the cause (the need to move) than the ensuing behaviour. If we can allow them to wiggle, jiggle, stretch and move with vigor, we may find everyone in a more pleasant mood, including ourselves.